Posted in Keeping your sanity, Working Parent

“We All Need Somebody to Lean On”

I have discovered over the last few years how important it is to have a strong support system in life. As much as I like to think that I am Super Woman, and as much as I like for others to think that I am Super Woman, the truth is that I’m not….well, not entirely. I do manage a house, a husband, three children, a small-but-ongoing performing career, students, and all the cooking, but these things don’t happen on their own. Yes, most of the time I am on my own. My husband often works long days, especially during the academic year, and I do prefer to be the one teaching my children and managing the bulk of our affairs here. However, I’m only human, and like any other person, I have bad days. I have days when, for some random reason, it all feels too hard or too overwhelming. The last few days are an excellent example. I had missed out on 3-4 nights of sleep because I was trying to manage my allergies with Claritin-D (the D part is a ridiculous amount of sudafed), and it was simply keeping me awake at night. By day 5, when our kitchen sink had decided to leak, I was overwhelmed. I called my in-laws to take the children overnight so I could deal with our water emergency. Stuff like this has happened several times, and I couldn’t do it without this strong support. My parents still work outside the home, but they are still another source of strong support. We can go over and hang out at their house and sort of “get away,” our kids can play in their big backyard, and it’s always a good time. I need that.

No matter what you do in life or who you are, it’s so important to have that strong support structure. It’s worth taking the time to develop strong friendships, family relationships, faith-based relationships, and so on. Yes, we are all busy, but we are also humans — imperfect humans with basic needs of love and support. I feel like I am a better mother, wife, and musician because I have these relationships to hang on to when times get a little rough or even when times are great, which is so much more fun to celebrate with others! Maybe I’m not Super Woman, but I am certainly at my best with the love and support of my friends and family (even my friends on the other side of the ocean)! I need you all, and we all need each other.


Posted in Keeping your sanity, Parenting, Practicing, Working Parent

Why this blog?

Many of my friends, family, and even my daughter’s Kindergarten teacher, ask me, “how do you balance flute with children?” Of course, I give them my honest interpretation of how I am “handling” (more like juggling) it, and, in most cases, advice on how they can succeed at it as well. After answering this many times, I got the idea to create a blog about being a professional musician, a mother of three (in fewer than 4 years!), and how I’ve learned to create some pretty awesome meals on my less-than-professional stove. I want to help musician mothers succeed and live to their full potential. Yes, it’s significantly more difficult to practice and concentrate and, well, work while wiping tushies and being sleep deprived, but I’m here to say that it is possible. As Marcel Moyse and Trevor Wye would say, with time, patience, and intelligent work, you can make it happen.